Their son arrived stillborn, but the Courtney family wants to help others
Posted on 09/13/18 6:51 PM
GRIEVING: Josh and Danielle Courtney with their children Xavier, 4, and Charlotte, 2, are helping others as they deal with the grief of losing their son Lucas. Picture: Kate HealyJosh and Danielle Courtney’s hearts are breaking after their son Lucas Alexander was stillborn last month, but they are finding a path through grief with a determination to help others.
The couple were out for dinner on July 17, their fifth wedding anniversary, when Ms Courtney, who was almost 37 weeks pregnant, began to suffer pain and began bleeding.The couple raced to Ballarat Base Hospital but emergency surgery could not save tiny Lucas.
What made their unbearable loss a little easier was the ability to have Lucas with them for as long as they needed to make some memories and say their goodbyes.
Ballarat Health has one cuddle cot, a cooling system fitted in to a small cotwhich allows babies who have passed away to stay with their family.
It meant Lucas’ siblings Xavier, 4, and Charlotte, 2, could spend time with him and allowed the couple’s families, many of whom liveinterstate, to meet the much-loved little boy.
“We got to make some memories and do it in our own time. The kids got to meet him –Charlotte and Xavier read him books. Not being able to keep him with us would … traumatised us even more,” Mr Courtney said.
In memory of Lucas the family is raising $6000 to buy a second cuddle cot for BHS.
“The cuddle cot allowed us to have him with us for five days or so, but BHS only has one so what happens if there are two families in there at the same time who need it?” he said.
The couple praised the “absolutely amazing” BHS staff who “madethe worst week of our lives a little bit easier”.
“This is about us trying to do something in Lucas’ honour, to help someone else, and turn our misery in to a bit of a positive,” Mr Courtney said.
In recognition of the six babies stillborn in Australia every day, Mr Courtney has also started Legging it for Lucas and aims to run 2200km before Lucas’ birthday on July 17.
“There are six stillbirths a day, which works out to 2200 a year and I’m going to try to run 1km for each and have people sponsor me. I’d like to get $2 for every kilometre.”
Donate to theIn Memory of Lucas Alexander account on gofundme南京夜网 or try Legging it for Lucas on Facebook.